He’s in the FriendZone, but Am I Starting To Like Him?

There’s a guy I’ve recently been hanging out with due to our love for eating. We’ll call him Michael. So, Michael and I have been eating together at restaurants a lot this month. He would usually invite me for to go out and eat. Although I’m a broke-ass student, I hate to refuse an invite to eat out, plus I like hanging out with Michael because he’s one of my only guy friends. I’ve never really had one before, so I find this friendship pretty special. He’s a sweet guy with a lot of consideration. Husband-material, really. I’ve never been so comfortable around a guy, like the time we went to watch a movie and then ate wings after. I ate wings with my fingers. Saucy, honey garlic wings. If you don’t get the picture yet, I was messy. That’s something I would never show to a guy unless I’m really comfortable with him. So why haven’t I asked him to be my boyfriend yet if he’s such a potential? Good question.

If you don’t know what the friendzone is, well, you don’t want to be in it. The friendzone is really hard to get out of. A guy lands himself in the friendzone for many things. I friendzoned Michael because he’s not my type. Appearance-wise. Yes, it’s a shallow reason, but it’s an important factor for me. If I’m not physically attracted to a person, it’s really difficult for me to like them romantically; however, I’m starting to doubt myself. The more I hang out with him, I end up thinking about our fun times together at the end of the day. His personality is really winning me over. Not only that, but he’s got a rich, RICH, background. Someone who can afford to stay at a 6-star hotel for a week, has his own beach cottage, three limited-edition luxury cars, you get the point. I’m not a gold digger, but that puts me at awe. Like I said I’m no gold digger, and so even with such affluence, I can’t see myself with him because there’s still that wall. The friendzone wall. And it’s definitely sturdier than The Walls (sup, Attack of Titan fans).

I think this is why I end up dating terrible guys because here I am with a guy that is such boyfriend material, but I refuse to acknowledge him past the status of friends because he’s not my type. I do pity anyone in the friendzone right now. It’s a challenge to overcome the wall, but I do plead you guys to please be like the dam Titans and break the walls to pieces so girls like me wont be able to ignore you anymore.

What would you do to get out of the friendzone?



I Tried Sexting, And It Turned Me On

My sexting virginity was taken recently by someone who I never expected, in a million years, I would do it with. I used to work with him in the summer, but we never really talked outside of work. I moved back home after that summer, so we’re like a couple provinces apart (yes, I live in Canada where we have provinces, not states). Anyways, almost a year later (a couple days ago), he just all of the sudden reached out to me, and we started to talk. We’ll call this guy Brennan, just to give him a name. So, I found out that Brennan had an interest in me back then which really surprised me because I thought I wasn’t his type. Moreover, he ended up getting a girlfriend during that summer (broke by the end of it). I mean, he wasn’t exactly my type either, but he did have some attractive features that caught my eye. He definitely was one of the better looking guys I worked with. Just a side note, this probably affected how we ended up getting sexual, but well, we we’re both drunk, so I was a lot more flirty, and didn’t really care too much with what I was saying. However, we didn’t start sexting until the next day, when we were both sober! I have never in my life sexted before, nor did I have any clue how to. Here’s how it started:

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You’ll notice that I did steer the convo towards the “sexual” direction. Not purposely, I just wanted to be funny. I’ll mention it now, that I probably did a lot of the initiating, but really not on purpose. Like I’ve actually never texted a guy this way before, even with guys I’ve hooked up with. So we continued with casual talk, and then I decide to tease him,

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Oh, if you haven’t noticed yet, but you probably already have, but Brennan use “aha” A LOT. I mean, it didn’t really bother me because to me “lol” and “aha” are almost like periods. They help end sentences with a lighter tone. Anyways, we sent selfies to each other because he apparently got a new haircut, and asked if I would like it. So, I told him to show me. Then he asked for a picture back. Nothing dirty though, just a selfie.

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Reading it again, I notice the excessive use of emojis. I really need to learn how to send texts without needing to use emojis every dam line. It’s still PG at this point. Although I say sexting, it was actually pretttty vanilla and quick, because I didn’t want to go too deep into it. I mean, it was my first time. I didn’t know what I was doing! You’ll get what I mean in a bit.

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He then passed the torch to me. I obviously did not know the art of sexting. I cringe reading at my answer. I could have done it so much more seductively.

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At this point, I really did not know how to approach it, so I decided to finish it on my end.

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I think it was the fact that I know him, yet we’re so far apart that I was comfortable saying things I normally never would. But what I learned from this experience is that it was fun, exciting, and not gonna lie, it definitely turned me on. If given the chance again, I would surely take it further. I think sexting has an art to it, and I want to learn it. Maybe it’s time to download Tinder again? For educational purposes.

What’s your experience with sexting? Any advice for inexperienced people like me?



10 Qualities I Want in a Man

Spring is here, but not for me. No new love has blossomed in my life. In actuality, the guy I’ve been seeing for the past 3 months has quietly disappeared from my life (no, I didn’t kill him, and bury his body in the woods; we just ended up ghosting each other I guess). I really don’t know if it’s the spring air, but for some reason, I see couples everywhere, and I am constantly reminded of my non-existent boyfriend. I’m turning 21 this year, but my boyfriend count is still  at zero. I want to believe I’m just a late bloomer, and like everyone’s been telling me, I just haven’t found the right guy yet. But I mean, I’m pretty good at Find Waldo; I wish those skills could be applied in the real world where my potential boyfriend can be easily spotted in a red and white striped long sleeve and a matching toque.

To be honest, I think my problem is that I have high standards, and I don’t want to settle. I’m going to try listing my standards because I’ve actually never sat down and wrote a list. By doing this, I hope I understand myself I little bit more, and what I really want from a guy. In my opinion, here are the qualities that make a guy boyfriend material, in no particular order:

Decisive: someone who can make quick decision and plans because I’m indecisive (it’s a problem).

 Humour: I’m pretty serious myself. I want someone who can make me laugh. I hate perverted jokes though. Ugh, turn off.

Good sense of fashion: I’m not looking for a guy that looks like he just walked on a runway, but I do appreciate if they know current trends and make the effort to have a style.

Toned Arms: I love the feeling of solid arms. Not necessarily super buff, but just firm.

Works Out/Plays Sports: shows that he is not lazy.

Good Son: The way he treats his family will say a lot about him. So if he treats his mother well, that’s always a great quality. No mama’s boy though.

Respectful: I have no tolerance for rude people. Having manners and knowing basic etiquette is so attractive.

Money: Don’t go on dates when you’re broke. I’m no golddigger, but I do want someone who can support himself and has the means to support me as well.

Comfort: A guy I can be comfortable with eating fried chicken using my hands. Someone who makes me feel pretty even in my au naturale state.

Grammar: I’m a hypocrite by listing this because I’m not perfect with grammar either, but I CAN NOT STAND bad grammar. I tried dating a guy who couldn’t tell the difference between “to” and “too”. Overall, he just didn’t seem to know his basic grammar! I couldn’t look past it. I would even try to correct him, but to no avail.

If anyone knows someone who has all these qualities, PLEASE, call me, maybe?

Let me know what qualities you look for in your significant other!


5 Reasons I Don’t Want To See Him Anymore

There are many reasons why a girl will no longer want to see a guy she’s been dating. Whether it’s a guy she’s been seeing for a week , or even one who she’s been with for years, a girl can suddenly just drop a guy and never want to see his face again. In my case, I’ve been seeing a guy for three months now. We are in a non-exclusive relationship, but no, we are not just fwb (friends-with-benefits) either. I have found myself feeling disinterested in Andrew (the guy I’m currently dating) and no longer am excited to see him. I haven’t seen Andrew for over a week due to his training out of the city. He recently came back, and I have not an ounce of  inclination to suggest meeting up. After thinking about it this past few days, I’ve come up with reasons to my detachment. Here are my top 5 reasons to why I don’t want to see the guy I’m dating:

1. Boring Text Conversations

I hate our text conversations. I HATE THEM. They’re so dull and mundane. His texts don’t interest me in any way, and they’re so difficult to respond back to. His texts are so predictable…he’s predictable. He usually will ask me how my day is, and I would tell him the most interesting points of my day so he has something to feed off of. However, I feel like he honestly doesn’t care what I did because he would reply back “nice! :)” or “that’s awesome :)”, general answers with no effort. It makes me not want to tell him about my day when I know exactly what he’s going to reply back. Then, when I ask him about his day, again, I already know what he’s going to say, “Good. Just finished supper. Going to workout now”. Along those lines anyways, but it’s honestly the same thing over and over again. I don’t know, is he just a boring person? The way we’re texting right now does not make me look forward to seeing him. I don’t wish for crazy philosophical replies, but I just want conversations that have a little bit more substance.

2. No Commitment

Being in a non-exclusive relationship, I don’t take the relationship as seriously, nor do I want exert more effort than I need to. I used to put A LOT of effort in the beginning thinking it might go somewhere, but if you’ve read my other posts, you will be aware why Andrew and I’s relationship will not go anywhere. So we are forever in this state of no titles, but we are still going on dates. But no, we are not just fuckbuddies; I’m not his 2 am booty call (efff that). We are actually going on legit dates, and we don’t fuck everytime we see each other; however, due to the fact that I know he’s not my boyfriend, I don’t prioritize him over my friends, and I wouldn’t feel hurt if we simply don’t see each other anymore.

3. Not My Type

From the start I knew he wasn’t my type. Don’t get me wrong, he’s not ugly at all. He’s pretty cute with a FINE body. So there definitely is a physical attraction. However, he really doesn’t fit MY type. As shallow as it sounds, he’s not someone I would proudly want to show off to my friends. Why I’m dating him? He has a nice personality; a gentleman. He treats me better than any guys I’ve dated. But, I just can’t seem to be satisfied because he’s not what I’m exactly looking for, and it’s really hard to settle.

4. Don’t See Each Other Often

He’s a very busy person compare to me. Andrew works 5 days a week and works out 3 times a day. We find it hard to make time for each other during the day, so we usually meet up late nights when there really isn’t anything to do aside from watching movies at a theatre or going to a bar. So our time together isn’t really that exciting. On average, we only see each other once a week right now. In the beginning, we would meet up two to three times a week. On one hand, I couldn’t care more to meet up, but on the other hand, I think that’s why I’m drifting away from him. The fact that I can tolerate not seeing him for long periods of time makes me feel like I would be okay not seeing him anymore.

5. My Low Self-Esteem

I gained weight. I’m definitely not as small as I used to be three months ago (blame it on unemployment, school, and rice). Andrew works out everyday. EVERY SINGLE DAY. Working out and being fit to him is important. I, on the other hand, hate working out. Anyways, long story short, I gain more fat everyday while he gains more muscle. I don’t want him to see me in such a slum state. Therefore, unless I lose 10 lbs, I don’t want to see him anytime soon. I don’t have the confidence to. Currently, I think this is the biggest factor to why I really don’t want to see him anymore.

Let me know some of your reason to why you wouldn’t want to see your significant other anymore. Thanks for reading!